"About a dozen years ago, an old friend of mine was told by his daughter that she was going to get married. This suited him fine, but he balked at pouring untold thousands of dollars down the drain of a full-dress wedding. 'I'll tell you what,' he said to her. 'I'll give you a choice: You can have a wedding, or you can have $30,000 to help you get started on your new life.' Without a moment's hesitation, she astonished him -- and me, too, when he told me the story -- by replying, 'I'll take the wedding'."